Last month, Gwyneth Paltrow opened up about her divorce from Chris Martin in an essay penned for British Vogue, now she's sharing details about how they're able to successfully co-parent their two teenage children, 16-year-old Apple and 14-year-old Moses.
“I mean it’s so interesting because in a way my divorce and my relationship with Chris now is better than our marriage was. So I do think that it can be done. I was really lucky because I had a doctor who kind of gave us a rubric for how to do it and luckily he’s writing a book and I think it’s coming out next year, thank goodness, because it really kind of lays out the tenants of how you do it and it’s a little bit unsurprising, right? You have to have radical accountability,” she explained on The Drew Barrymore Show. “You have to know that every relationship is 50/50. No matter what you think, how you think you were wronged, or how bad you perceive the other person's actions, or whatever the case may be. If you are brave enough to take responsibility for your half and really look at your own garbage and your own trauma and how it’s presenting in the world and in your relationship then there really is somewhere to go and something to learn and something to heal. You are also holding the other person in this sphere of humanity. We are all part good and part bad, it’s not binary, we are all grey area."
“We all are trying our best," she continued. "I really wanted my kids to not be traumatized, if it were possible. Chris and I committed to putting them first and that’s harder than it looks because some days you really don’t want to be with the person that you are getting divorced from but if you’re committed to having family dinner then you do it. And you take a deep breath and you look the person In the eye and you remember your pact and you smile and you hug and you make a joke and you just recommit to this new relationship that you are trying to foster.”
“It’s like you’re ending a marriage but you’re still in a family,” Paltrow added. “That’s how it will be forever. Some days it’s not as good as it looks. We also have good days and bad days but I think it’s driving towards the same purpose of unity and love and what’s best for them. We have this idea that just because we break up we can’t love the things about the person anymore that we loved and that’s not true.”
The actress and Coldplay frontman split in 2014. Paltrow has since married Glee co-creator Brad Falchuk and Martin is dating 50 Shades of Grey star Dakota Johnson.
Watch Paltrow's full interview with Barrymore below.
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